This bud's for me?

What's that? Let me mute this a sec.

I don't know, the jury is still out.

On Saturday I listened to 'This American Life' in the privacy of my own little portable head phone/hd radio I got as a premium from the local NPR station.

What I had been promised was a day sponsorship in memory of Loret from me and the boys. On her birthday. But they missed that day. So they tried again, on the anniversery of her death - May 27 - and the one time I tuned in to hear it (out of three total), Garrison Keillor made no mention of my deceased spouse. The times they gave me, I was later told, were only approximate. Anyway, the message had indeed aired they assured me, and a friend mentioned hearing it. And besides, I am such a huge fan of public radio, it is like icing on the cake - a 'premium' that is - I'm very happy to support one of the last vestiges of independent journalism.

Saturday's T.A.L. episode was rather brilliant, I laughed out loud several times - like a lunatic, such outbursts coming from no stimuli apparent to my sons. I wanted to call them over to listen, but didn't, they couldn't without interrupting the flow of the story, turning on the radio, and maybe the funny part was done anyway, etc. Sometimes when the show is on the radio they will listen in. (But more often ask me to please turn it down as they watch Scrubs or Family Guy, or some other wholesome show. Or play a video game.)

While it is true the sound quality was superior to our usual radio, and I could move from room to room, push a vacuum or broom, lift a barge, tote a bale, whatever. Maybe sit down and write a symphony or play Halo 3. Or in my case do my p.t. exercises then eat lunch.

Which seems just about as complicated an activity as I could be expected to do - and still enjoy the show. But I'm not sure I even want to do that. I'll try it again, maybe wear it to the gym tomorrow. It's not like I talk to many folks in the gym anyway. But when people wear the ear buds listening to god knows what, it's like they aren't there - or I'm not.

Old dog, new trick? Maybe. I'll see how the gym goes. If I remember, that is.

Next day update: went to the gym today. Instead of the hd radio I went with my son Eli.

Also, here is a blog my sister mentioned that teases out some of the baby boomer generation's angst/disgust about the new media: http://www.londonlee.com/page/2

Six degrees...

of obfuscation?

Many of you may recall the movie, Six Degrees of Separation, in which the theory is posited - and exposited - that all of us are connected by no more than six steps away from every last living person on the planet. Or something like that. (This concept apparently was first espoused by Frigyes Karinthy, a Hungarian author and playwright of the early twentieth century.)

I recall enjoying the movie well enough, and within the framework of its plot, it worked. But having lived and worked in a remote village in Nepal, the basic idea just doesn't add up for me. Unless of course a 'step' of separation (or connection, rather) could be as tenuous as something like: 'I know Peter, who was a Peace Corps volunteer in Nepal, and in the village of Khateda where he lived was a widow named Kamala who prepared his evening meal of chapattis each night, the flour for which was ground in a tiny mill by the stream, a stream at which a village child played, by the name of Amar Bahadur who went to school each day with a girl Laxmi, who was married off to a village two days' walk away, and whose mother-in-law was uncharacteristically kind, and was thereby spared her life when Laxmi took up an AK-47 and joined the Maoist revolution...' Actually, this one seems to be 'working.' But what of the other millions of Nepalis who never met or saw a PCV? To say nothing of the billions of villagers across the globe who have little or no contact with the 'outside world'?

It's one thing to feel connected by our hundreds of Facebook 'friends,' and thence to each of their hundreds, etc., but such connections seem to loop in on themselves. Basically, I need to see a study which takes two randomized people and attempts to connect them. Thousands of successful times within six steps. This skeptic doesn't think it possible. With something much more than 'he visited China once, where a small boy in Shang-hai by the name of Ang-li lives' - as a step.

Just saying, doesn't add up for me.

However, I now have a direct connection with an acupuncturist in D.C. The connection - this past Tuesday - did not involve any needles, at least not on my first visit. There was much more talking, and discussing posture (like avoiding that slump which I now exhibit rather acutely), and other strategies to address what she seemed to agree was stress related. (She is also a physical therapist.) Or more to the point, how I carry tension. In this case, largely, at night. I am able to sleep okay, but by morning, my jaw is pretty tense and sensitive. It gradually lessens during the day, yet seems to intensify with apprehension, for example, of taking that first bite, or at the approaching tooth brush. Did this visit do the trick? Insofar as keeping me on a path of betterment through non-invasive means (drugs or needles or worse), I suppose so. Will I go back for more? Depends on how much my insurance picks up of her not inconsiderable fee. (She doesn't submit...)

A dharma teacher invoked the 'Heisenberg uncertainty principle' the other day. Simply put, the principle states that when observed an action will have a different outcome. This principle came out of quantum physics, and has elegantly complex math to support it. (I'm kind of weak here on the hard science bit, correct me if I'm wrong, any math-physicist out there who may be reading this - you know who you are.) I don't recall exactly what the relationship to the dharma the teacher had in mind, but while observing the pain in my jaw, the principle seems rather clear. If I move my tongue around the sensitive areas with an intention to note the level of pain, it is greater if I in fact am hoping for there to be little or no pain. The same is true if I take a bite of food, or put in my mouth guard, or whatever. That is, depending on what the nature of my observation is, the outcome is unique. This is perhaps enough solipsistic navel gazing for now...

I will watch what arises, and what precedes it, and gradually figure it out. I feel it slowly lifting. Also will remain connected to y'all, and beyond, by however many degrees of separation it takes.

Where did I put my keys?

Researchers have found that certain blind persons who have lost their vision due to neurological events, like strokes, can actually avoid randomly placed obstacles on the floor - as if they could see them - as they walk down a hallway. I'd be curious to know if there was a control group - maybe with the lights turned off - and how well that group did.

In The Snow Leopard, we learn of Sherpa - and other ethnic Tibetan porters - going into a 'lung-gom' state (or something like that) which enabled them to negotiate particularly difficult terrain, or even to walk quickly in the dead of night, without a torch, on unknown trails. Or they would be walking happily along, barefoot in the snow and ice, chatting, telling jokes and laughing, thumping their 50kg loads; when the trail would narrow to a veritable foot-wide cliff hanger. They would go silent, seeming to look inward - as if in meditation - then successfully make the pass. And pick up their cheery banter where they'd left off. Matthiessen, with his much lighter pack and thick soled boots, would have to crawl these particular ledges on his hands and knees.

Could there be a neurological explanation linking these two phenomena?

Then a few weeks ago I heard on Morning Edition (I forget who, what, when, etc.) an interview with a researcher who'd focused on memory. Specifically, how memory fades as we age. Anybody who has either lived on this planet for more than forty years - or knows somebody who has - is quite aware of so-called 'senior moments.' However, the researcher described a change in the brain's neuro-chemistry (or something like that) that begins in middle age, and enables older brains to make meaningful connections far more readily than younger brains. (Hah! take that all you gen x, y, and z's out there...)

But seriously, this little connection about the blind leading the blind, isn't exactly earth shattering. However, as I lose my keys gradually a bit more often as the years go by, it seems that there are just more and more things floating around up here between my ears; it's not hard to imagine them making more connections. (Actually, it was Miller who lost my keys the evening before last when he went down to get the mail... The next morning was a bit of a panic till I found a spare key to the Civic. And later our house guest Sara found the keys.)

The connection I'm making these days is between life's tension and stress on the one hand, and various psycho-somic pains and maladies on the other. Pains so very real, the term psycho-somic literally means 'mind-body,' (from the Greek?). And not the denigrated 'it's all in your head' that it has come to mean in the popular usage. My lingering dental pain is bringing such ideas to the fore. I have started eating whole - though generally softer - foods again. (E.g. oatmeal instead of granola, etc.) Got my new nightguard last Thursday, and was able to wear it for two hours the first night. (Over the weekend it's gone up to six hours.)

It is disappointingly hard - I'd hoped for something soft and chewy. Don't know if it's gonna help with the pain (so far it hasn't), but it will likely help preserve my teeth. The pain is moving around in my mouth - seemingly after a certain area's muscles have learned to relax the pain away, it goes somewhere else. This makes it a clear candidate for psycho-soma, that is, tension caused pain. (But the jury is still out; I hope to see an acupuncturist this week.)

While sitting in the dentist's waiting room, I read the article about plastics in the latest New Yorker. Though not a sure thing, it seems clear that BPA - an additive to certain plastics - does come with some environmental risks. The studies are not yet conclusive. I didn't ask whether this new dental appliance had any in it - I'd just paid almost five hundred bucks for it! - and like I said, it was hard: BPA is used to soften plastics or some such thing. (Maybe I should just put a rag in my mouth? Organic unbleached cotton?)

The article was fascinating and mentioned that the European Union requires companies to do all the scientific research to prove a new chemical will be safe in the environment before it is approved for use. I have heard of this referred to as the 'precautionary principle,' and was one of the stipulations placed on post World War II Germany by FDR's Marshall Plan (or something like this...). Unlike in the U.S., where a new chemical - unless it is intended specifically for food or medicine - can be introduced willy nilly. Thousands of new chemicals are introduced annually, and it is up to the EPA to review the safety of these; in a good year they can get to maybe 10% of them. Why don't we have the precautionary principle here? It hasn't exactly crippled the EU. Though I'm sure industry would argue otherwise, perhaps it has even made the Union stronger.

Instead, what we have is a chemical free for all, and if a substance is found to be dangerous - at tax payer expense, of course, and often after significant damage is done (e.g. DDT or ALAR) - it might be banned. Again, after litigious struggles with industry. Does this not sound like a completely backward way of doing things? As a friend tells me, it's just one of a number of unfortunate things we Americans put up with, not knowing any better. (Such as this small example: why do we have to pay for cell-phone time when we are called by somebody else? Doesn't happen in most the rest of the world...) I'm starting to sound like a dirty socialist.

Maybe this is an example of my middle-aged brain making far too many connections? It does kind of wear me out. Time to get ready for bed, bonne nuit.

Food, glorious food!

Until, that is, the pain, inglorious pain.

This dental thing is like nothing I have encountered before. I take that back, it's a bit like the kidney stones I've had in my few years on this planet. (With the first I spent a dark night writhing in agony on the floor of a night bus to Kathmandu, watching the vomit - not mine - slosh back and forth in the rivulets of the aisle mat. Nepali villagers tended to have a hard time with locomotion...future blogpost. If my readership can handle it.)

But here and now, back to this pain through which Rumi's light is supposed to be able to 'enter' me. It is not an ache, but rather intermittent stabbing, brief jolts of high voltage electric charge. When I swallow, brush my teeth (oh, the irony...), or, especially, masticate. There is no pain associated with pressure on any particular tooth. And no pain at rest - thankfully sleep has been undisturbed. Today talking has become painful - don't call. Ibuprofen and Tylenol haven't helped a bit, though their placebo effect abides - I just put a blindfold on, then swallow.

I have found high correlation between the acidity of the food, and its propensity to cause pain. For lunch, it has long been my custom to have a nice big salad: arugula and other leaves, some nuts, and a liberal dousing of Annie's Goddess. Which you may know is incredibly tangy, which is to say, acidic. So haven't had that for several days. (And as far as plain leaves go, spinach seems much milder than arugula. Fyi.)

How about a p.b. and j. sandwich? Dispatched one for lunch on Saturday and one on Sunday without too much pain. And as I ate, some 'bridging' seemed to occur over the mysterious entry point to the raw nerve - somewhere in the lower left molar region - which would greatly reduce the pain. I considered using caulk or glue to provide a short term barrier. Thought better of that, not sure how short term that would be. Or toxic.

I picked up some Anbesol today on the recommendation of the pharmacist. Before my sandwich I applied some of the paste (which includes three artificial colors, and saccharine - what are they thinking?). And the jolts of electricity only intensified. Maybe the pH was too low, or it acted as an electrolite, or something. Then I put some Vaseline over that (btw, I'm getting huge product placement commissions for some of these), which did nothing to help. One could easily imagine why, trapping the Anbesol for some machine-gun fire in the enclosed space. So, rinsed everything out with tap water, a liquid with neutral pH, and which usually causes no pain. Or only while swallowing. After each of these steps I would try to take a bite of sandwich, but each time, no dice. Like the Buddhist 'hungry ghost,' my vast appetite much larger than my mouth. I then applied a layer of Vaseline, which calmed the jolting a bit, but still could not take a bite.

So, time for a new recipe: take one p.b. and j. sandwich, break in half, place in mixer. Add cup of milk. Blend for one minute. Drink carefully, head tilted far to the right. Followed that with Citrucel, and two medicinal squares of dark chocolate, 71% cocoa butter. Immediately expel these onto plate - the chewing is excruciating - and chop into several pill size pieces, and wash down with water. Rinse out with more water.

This morning as I waited for the local bus that stops by many of the nearby high-rises, some birds swooped down to fly under the valet entrance to our building. One of them attempted to transubstantiate and pass through the glass my left shoulder was leaning against. He didn't pull it off, and plopped onto the ground. He was the shape and size of a robin, but his breast was beige in color - not yellow like the pictures I have found on-line. Within a second he was standing. Within a minute he trotted off, then took flight with a buddy. I felt like giving it a try - maybe the bonk would leave me senseless, or a transmogrification would remove my pain. The bus arrived, and when I went for the glass door I passed right through - whoosh - miracle of miracles. I swallowed and found the tooth pain was still with me. C'est la vie.

The earliest dentist appointment I could find is tomorrow morning at 8 a.m. Wish me luck.

Addendum in p.m.: for dinner, a quesadilla/fried egg/water smoothie. This tasted far better than it sounds. Probably not the first savory smoothie ever made, but it was the first I ever had, and it really wasn't bad at all. Then for dessert, a fruit smoothie. Who needs teeth anyway? Of course I can't wait to get full dental potential back; however, I might just make a daalbhaat smoothie for lunch tomorrow (I've got leftovers). With spicy lime pickle, mmm.

Eels?

'mero hawaijahajma dherai jugaaharu chhan.'

During Peace Corps' language training a fellow volunteer remembered the Monty Python skit with the smutty Hungarian language phrasebook. ‘My hovercraft is full of eels,’ a mustachioed and bespectacled John Cleese reads from the booklet to the clerk, Terry Jones. Who, after consulting the book, I think, said something in reference to Cleese's non-existent mammary glands...

We hadn’t learned the requisite vocabulary for the eel line, so Bob said one day in a thickly Hungarian-accented Nepali, “in my airplane there are many leeches!” (see above for the Nepali). All the volunteers doubled over with laughter, but our language trainers couldn’t possibly get it. And of course our explanations, as is usually the case with humor, did nothing to help. The trainers offered plaintive smiles, and went on with our lesson: “the stick is red; this one is black,” we were told, as we picked out some of the newly learned words, guessing at others from a pantomimed lexiconography. How to pantomime red?

The language was instructed by way of the ‘silent method;’ we were not allowed to speak any English, no comments or questions, though we often couldn’t help ourselves, like little kids in church. The trainers never lapsed.

Will my sons pick up any Nepali on our trip this summer? I imagine they will learn the word for leech - jugaa - it will be monsoon season after all, when leeches are really on the prowl. And they probably won't be too happy about it... I'm hoping we don't have to learn the words for 'maoist insurgent,' a more dangerous blood sucking creature. In fact, due to their nationwide strike, we may not make it to Nepal at all in August.

dukkha happens

the pali word dukkha is usually translated as 'suffering,' and the buddha is purported to have arrived at the 'first noble truth' which is commonly phrased, life is suffering.

like many of us, when first introduced to this concept, i dismissed it - or rather, rephrased it. life includes suffering, to be sure, but there is so much more i would protest, correcting 'his lordship.' some etymologies state that the root of the word implied a wheel out of balance. dissatisfaction, affliction, stress are other words sometimes employed in translation. (in modern nepali - and in probably most sanskrit derived tongues - the word survives and means simply pain, or hardship. 'dukha bhaayo, sukha paayo' goes the rhyme in nepal. this translates roughly as 'encountered pain? now reap your gain,' or simply 'no pain, no gain,' which i've always felt to be a bit puritanical.)

that there is suffering in the world hardly comes as a surprise. that the rather fortunate members of this human race who can afford to sit and stare at a computer - etc., etc. - that they also experience suffering is harder for some to accept. maybe occasional sadness or disappointment, or even life's inevitable losses. but compared to darfur? or haiti? c'mon, give me a break, we might say, keep a stiff upper lip lad! and the crown prince of an ancient hindu kingdom, raised surrounded by the sensual pleasures of the world - what could he tell us about suffering?

as it turns out, according to millions of folks over the last two and a half centuries, a great deal. take this moment as an example (assuming you are still here with me): you likely have a to-do list, and nowhere on that list does it say 'check peter's blog.' (and if it does, you are too kind, really...). but the point is, if you are like me at all, the list of stuff to get done usually grows faster than we actually get it done. now, as you sit here reading this, perhaps in the back of your mind you are figuring how to get a, b, and c done (to say nothing of x, y, and z - why in heck did i ever agree to those?) before the kids come home from school (or whatever). this too is suffering, (though perhaps mild) - this not being in the moment - though stress is the term we use much more often. and over time too much of it can bring (or contribute to) various physiological conditions. ulcers, lower back pain, asthma, and eczema are widely understood to be - if not caused by stress - at least markedly exacerbated by it. in my experience, any physiological condition can be worsened by stress, including the biggies, like ms and cancer. does that mean we can just turn off the stress and get 'better?' well, it doesn't seem so straightforward as that, but the connection between mind and body is getting increasing medical attention and research. and besides, who can just 'turn off' stress? we can live and pursue ways to manage, or reduce stress, but it seems a certain amount of it is endemic to living (especially in this culture, it seems).

okay, now here comes the one idea that i sat down to blog about. namely, how even enjoyable or stress reducing activities can occasion 'suffering' in our lives. my girlfriend treated me to a professional massage last weekend. i find a half hour to be better than the full hour - this may have to do with ms, or middle age (lying in those face thingies...), or even the idea i will explain here:

how can a pleasurable experience like a massage occasion (or cause, or invite) suffering? here's how: after disrobing, climbing onto the table, and pulling up the sheet, the masseuse enters and begins to work on me. i'll find myself feeling great the first five or so minutes, but then it becomes apparent that a certain portion of my body is 'finished' and the ticking of an imaginary clock seems to lead inexorably toward the end of my session. (you might suggest i go for the full hour, but this effect will often happen even then, though perhaps somewhat delayed - i.e. the first ten minutes is great...) this clinging to the pleasant or good can be a source of feeling loss as if squeezing tighter to a handful of sand as it falls to the ground, slipping through your fingers.

i have found it very helpful in situations like this - such as lying on a massage table - to practice the techniques learned in meditation classes and sitting groups. usually, such techniques help in dealing with more obvious dukkha, or suffering - pain in the back or legs, anger at a family member, trouble at work, etc. following or bringing my awareness to the breath is one such technique; or mentally touching into my body, and not just that part that is being massaged. the larger awareness this brings kind of loosens the grip of time - and its apparent scarcity - and obviates the feeling of loss that this wonderful experience is coming to an end. it becomes much easier to just be with the beauty of the sensations.

much of the stress - or dukkha - in our lives i think comes from resisting the up and down wave motion of our experience: when we are up on the crest, we want to hold on tight; but when down in a trough, we want to get back up - please, just make the bad stuff go away! being present and open to what is - up or down - this seems to be a way beyond suffering. of course we will continue to bring our efforts to alleviating our pains and illness, or, for example, planning that trip to hawaii. there is nothing about 'being in the moment' that precludes planning for the future.

grief has been an effective teacher in this: when a certain song came on the radio - our song maybe, or one laden with emotion (joan armatrading's 'i'm lucky' for example, or maybe csny's 'our house,' or how about joni mitchell's 'both sides now') - i'd start howling like a coyote, coughing out the sobs to 'beat the band.' then the storm would eventually pass, the tears would dry, and equanimity would return. this felt to be a very ancient process, coded deep in my dna and over time would come less frequently, and less explosively - as long as i didn't resist it. now it's an occasional misting in the eyes. but i see i'm getting off topic here. grief, man what a teacher. could gobble up volumes of blog posts on that.

impermanence seems like it's here to stay - as contradictory as that sounds - but when i can open to the infinite container of this moment - good or bad - i seem to get a taste of freedom.

time flies like an arrow...

but, fruitflies like (pause here for effect, when spoken), a banana. ba dump bump.

i love mangoes, and sometimes enjoy the organic or conventional ones available in supermarkets, a lovely treat. of course there will be an occasional dud, but not often. i have heard that the mangoes we find in the produce aisles here in the states are just nowhere near as good as the tree ripened ones in country x, y, or z. 'no,' we are told, 'the ones in z are even better than in y - and huge!' mr. x will change the subject... 'you really have no conception of what papaya means in your country,' he'll say.

i've never heard nepalis talk like this. here is what would happen in my village at the start of mango season. the mangoes would be hanging tightly to their stems and tree limbs, maybe the size of a fist. they were about as hard as a baseball, and bright green. the children would climb the trees and begin to harvest, maybe two at a time, nibbling tart bites on their way back from school, spitting out the skin. i was offered such fruit, but would claim no appetite. an honest statement, but not necessarily for the reason they might have guessed.

why did they do this? they genuinely seemed to like the flavor. my guess is that over the millenia, as people would harvest mangoes from the communal trees, the early 'bird' would end up with more fruit, and gradually their taste preferences adapted. the tangy, spicy, and salty pickle made from such unripe fruit i did find quite delicious. same for the lemon and lime peel pickles. still love those with the occasional daalbhaat meal.

but let me tell you about the amazing fruit in village homes, davis, california (country xx). climbing up the old fig trees and picking the black mission figs that have been hanging weeks past ripe, they were just incredibly soft and sweet, shriveled up like raisins, but smooth and creamy like butter - something you truly can never find in a store. or the jojobe tree in our backyard. what, never heard of a jojobe? (not the candy, 'jujube.') middle eastern, it was a golf-ball sized brown fruit, tasted kind of like dried apple. same back yard, a tall apricot tree. in my country, xx, let me tell you about tree ripened fruit. or how about feijoas? they ripened in december or january, and were ripe only after they had fallen off the bush. tasted a bit like quava, a bit juicier like pineapple. and there was the cherry orchard, the plum orchard, the grape vineyards... x, y, and z people have no idea, them was the days, i'm telling you.

spring is here, the cherries are ripe. bon appetit!